TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS, SURVIVALIST UPBRINGING! BOOK CLUB #1: EDUCATED by Tara Westover | AmandaMuse

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Join our BOOK CLUB! Listen to audiobooks or read along and let’s discuss some awesome books over 2019. Today is Educated: A Memoir by Tara Westover. WHAT A BOOK! A woman raised in a survivalist family set in Idaho, and how she overcame the difficult upbringing to become an independent, educated powerhouse. Did you enjoy it? Leave me your review in the comments! Be sure to tell me what book we should review next! Thanks for watching xo Amanda

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AmandaMuse says:

Be sure to leave your recommendations for our next book in the comments! Also, leave each book as a new comment so we can VOTE on them! xo

Агата Варламова says:

Thank you for this incredible review!

Soni Uccellini says:

This was such an awesome idea, doing a book review… Loved it! My recommendations for future books would be the handmaids tale, this is how it always is, behind closed doors, behind her eyes, before we were yours, the hate u give and many more…

laurah6381 says:

Oh, love the book "Educated!" So good! Off topic, but can Dean do a video on "fear of flying" for people that hate to fly. I'm going from Chicago to Ireland in February and I'm petrified to fly! 😫😫😫

Brittney Stewart says:

Renee zellweger should play tara!

Amy Tinker says:

Throughout this book I regularly had to remind myself that his was a memoir and not a novel. So much of this was so far past my reference point that it just didn't seem real. The characters seemed like just that, a made up person, not a made up name for a real life person. This woman is amazing. She has accomplished so much while constantly doubting herself and her worth. Imagine the things that this woman would have done with the right people behind her. She probably still has so many self doubts and I am truly saddened that she had to endure that life. I am also beyond grateful that this book did not resonate with my on a personal level at all, I don't know if I am supposed to feel that but I just know that I would not have had her strength and courage.

Amy Tinker says:

I feel like Kirsten Bell would be a great Tara, I don't know why but that is who popped into my head. The mother Sandra Bullock, she can play that demure role really well I feel but has the strength that the mother needed at times (these people may not be the right age bracket but stay with me) and as for the Dad, I feel like kevin spacey is enough weirdo look to him (or maybe brian cranston). Mind you I am probably thinking of Tara as older, more towards the end of the book

Ana Isabel Munguia says:

The book floored me. I have two babies, and I could never imagine treating them like that. It made me see my childhood and schooling in such a different light. Like not even lucky, blessed. Tara is pure gold. She was so brave for sharing her story, I hope the book didn't unravel more pain though. And I hope she has positive female role models around her. I noticed a partner where she almost always prioritized her relationships with men, except for her mom and sister. I wondered about the positive, if any, impact female friendships had on her. I could sense in some parts of the book how she resented other women but as an outsider I sense that could've manifested subconsciously because of the way she was treated. I hope that is not the case anymore.

Blind Moving On says:

I loved both of these books !

Yogesh Biradar says:

I have a huge respect for women who believe in marriage, motherhood, family, reality and you are one of 'em# real woman.One question: I know it's human nature to do comparisons of characters from book or movie to the real life but we don't know in what circumstances author or writer wanted it to be the way it is, what's your take on that? and as per my opinion it's better to read or watch it n move on with positive note.

Krissi Indre says:

The toxic pull, for sure some form of a Stockholm syndrome.

Amanda McDonald says:

“When Breath Becomes Air” by Paul Kalanithi if you haven’t read it already. An amazing story, warning, it will make you cry!

Brianna Loree says:

I’m so excited to read this book! Bill Gates recommended it and now that you left your review, I’m even more pumped!!! I would love to recommend “the light between oceans” to you. It is INCREDIBLE! They have recently made it a movie and the movie left MUCH to be desired, but the book was unreal. It will pull at your heartstrings and make you question your morals as a mother and human being. I really enjoyed it and think it’s book club worthy!!

Ana Nimity says:

Through your review, and not having read the book, I feel for this author. I grew up in a violent household and didn't get to have a childhood. I am now though in letting my inner child have as much fun as she wants. People have told me I should write my memoir. Perhaps one day I will

Shari Mahoney says:

Loved hearing your review Amanda ❤️ It sounds like such an interesting book.
Just added it to my next read. Thank you xx

elysiamarie1 says:

I recommend The Secret Sister. It's about twins that were seperated at birth and lived totally different lives. I haven't finished it yet but what I've read is good

Nikki Ness says:

Love that you’re doing this book club!
I finished Educated last week. I could not put this book down! What an incredibly heartbreaking memoir. I do feel at peace with the conclusion of her story as she is extremely educated & removed from those toxic relationships. There are so many aspects of this book that I could talk about and analyze but overall it was an eye opening experience to read about her "Mormon Survivalist" upbringing during the 90s – 00s. This book reminded me of The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls & North of Normal by Cea Sunrise Person. I would recommend those two memoirs.
I’m looking forward to reading The Great Alone soon.

Ashley Dyck says:

I also loved this book! I don’t usually seek out memoirs, but this one was definitely worth the read! The great alone is on my must read list already, glad to hear you enjoyed it. ‘An American Marriage’ is another I’m looking forward to reading.

Rhonda Williams says:

I have not read this book yet but I know from my own experience that when I have an urge to go back in my life, as opposed to moving forward, it usually means I want or need to fix something, which in some cases is impossible to do, so I need to get rid of it before or it becomes toxic baggage. Hard to move forward when you have something forever holding you back. Then you are at risk of never reaching the goal of completion.
When something is broken it is difficult to go on in our day to day life without the need to either fix it or see it for what it is (like completely useless or destructive) and throw it away. If it has sentimental value (like family) then we have a tendency to hold on to it; It then, over the years, becomes a bondage and until we fix it or put it where it belongs, in the trash bin, which needs to be picked up and carried away forever never to be seen again, it plays that something is not right or something is missing or just waiting for the other shoe to drop feeling in our life and it haunts us to the point of not being able to move forward or gain that peace of mind that we are longing for; maybe not in the forefront of our mind but way back in the hard to reach places of our mind.
As I have said, I have not read the book so I may be way off track, but I know that if I am not moving forward or i know I am at risk of not moving forward, which the urge to go back is threatening to do, then my life will never have peace of mind and be complete; this means I will forever be haunted by my past. Hence the need to keep going back. She has not experienced complete closure, which means, make it right or put it where it belongs. We can have the appearance of moving forward, which turns out to be the actions that will mask the hurt. Go to college, fall in love, get married, have children, win a Pulitzer prize, etc. At the same time, while all this wonderfulness is happening, emotionally we are dying and it is crippling mentally, emotionally and spiritually crippled. Mentally we continue to torture ourselves with the memories of the past.
I was abused as a child up to the age of 16. I couldn't physically pick the abuser up and throw him away so instead I wrote a letter to my abuser then placed it in a bowl and set it on fire. (speaking to him in person may have done more damage to me than good) I watched the smoke rise and disappear into the sky and the letter turn into ashes. In that moment it was over and I no longer had the urge to fix, defend or avenge the little girl who went through more than any little girl should have to. ( don't get me wrong I am not saying I was completely healed but I did, on that day, take the power back to take control of my life and my own happiness) In that moment I experienced true peace of mind. Prior to performing this little ritual I had a recurring nightmare; the abuser was chasing me up the mountain and I knew if I could get to the top I would be safe but I never was able to make to the top. This would repeat over and over and just before I could feel the abusers hands on me, after catching me, I would wake up in a sweat. Then after performing this ritual I had the dream again only this time, in the dream, instead of running I turned around, held out my hand and demanded a gift. (No easy feat, because I was so frightened but it was powerful) He looked at me in surprise and disappeared. That was the gift I needed. I then continued on up the mountain taking in the beauty along the way to see the view at the top of the mountain. (beauty that I missed when I was running in fear) I never had that dream again. I was able to, then, focus on the little girl inside of me and teach her to arm herself, take the power I had lost back, never to be abused again and to heal the wounds and turn the scars of a victim into the scars of a survivor. I was free to turn the devils spoils into a beautiful and worthy life.
 I look forward to reading this book. Next on my list.Thank you, I love this new genre, the book club.

Spring Giddinessify says:

I have this book on my list to read this year. Current waiting num 373 😂 Love love love that you started a book club. I’ll be sure to join in on the next one.

Aneta CS says:

Gosh Amanda, I didn’t read this book and I think I might be here not long enough (I mean in your channel ) because I actually have no idea what you are referring to in your life but I have to be honest you got me lost here.
Most likely also because of this one stream communication stream which Youtube video definitely is.
Wishing you a great year and hopefully you’ll find a way to resolve your wrong family relationships.

Sarah says:

I just finished The Home for Unwanted Girls and WHOA!!! It is historical fiction and If you want to feel all the feels, read it! Touches on so much: relationships, motherhood, being a woman in a difficult time, French vs English in Quebec, and also left me thinking OMG THIS HAPPENED IN CANADA? Where was that in history class??? I had no idea! Also, my spouse is a high school history teacher, also had no idea!!! Maybe March can be a Canadian themed book 🇨🇦

Lana Agejev says:

Amanda, have you ever experienced continuous disapproval from your parent because of your relationship with Dean (just because of his age)? I would love to hear your opinion on that topic

Teresa Wasiak says:

Loved this review! Thanks Amanda, I’m going to pop it on my list

Teresa Wasiak says:

Book recommendation – Eleanor Oliphant is completely fine 📚

Amy Tinsky says:

I’ve been recommended Educated. Just downloaded it to listen to. Another rec by same group of good book choice friends was “Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine: A Novel” by Gail Honeyman. That’s next for me. I will check out your feb suggestion and look fwd to your reviews. I can relate to the abuse and issues with family and all without saying too much in public. I wish you lived in Seattle. Would invite you and kids over for a java and chat on that topic. Have you ever thought of starting an abuse survivor Facebook group or speaking of your own stuff with caution and gentleness in another place? maybe a blog or written to share with only specific people? I saw that you follow Elle Lindquist and I love her survival story of her own abusive history. I feel like these memoires by book or vlog or however do shine a small light on what it’s like to live with abuse. Hm.maybe start a forum or discussion on how people cope with family history of abuse and how it affects so many aspects of life as adults.
You are seriously killing it with your vlogs so you too are a survivor.
Oh and I have done that where I get stories mixed up in my head when I read too many at once.
Another series of books topics I like are ones by a teacher of special needs or abused kids and one who is a foster mom working with the abused kids and their behaviors when they enter care and how she works with the kids and struggles with their social worker and sometimes family too.
If interested let me know and I will send some titles.

C Fitzpatrick says:

I loved this book. It was one of my favourites that I read last year. What has stuck with me (and it has been about 6 months since I read it so please excuse my horrible paraphrasing) is when she muses that it was not the facts, the history, the Truth that convicted her that her family was wrong but it was Beauty. I think she was in an art class and being confronted with beauty that she had never seen challenged her and her families beliefs more that just being TOLD about reality. Beauty is such a powerful and sadly underused witness to what IS true in this world. It has a way of piercing to the 'heart of the matter' that overcomes our defenses!

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